The woman in the picture above is delicious eye candy for me. She’s got a banging body. The whole package is just right for me.
Is it wrong of me to judge the woman in the picture like that?
Am I a bad person for judging her physical appearance?
Maybe I am to you, or maybe not. I don’t care either way, but here’s the truth:
You’re always judged by your appearance first.
I don’t even know who the woman in the picture is. I can only guess how great (or awful) her personality is.
For all I know she could be the woman of my dreams as far as personality goes. She might even tick all the right boxes for what I want in a woman/relationship.
But none of that matters.
Why? Because that’s never how it works. Here’s a question for you…
When you walk outside of your house, and go into the city center (or some other area where people congregate), what’s the first thing you see?
- Do you see everybody’s beaming personality?
- Do you see a person’s good intentions?
- Do you see how ethical they are?
- Can you see how much of a “great” person they are by looking?
- Can you see how “good hearted” each person is by looking?
- Do you see how caring, compassionate and loving everybody is at first glance?
90% of the information absorbed by the brain is visual. It can’t be helped.
Have you traveled anywhere today? That means you’ve judged 1000’s of people already without even realizing it. And you didn’t even stop to think about it.
You do the same thing when you go on a date, or dine out at your favorite restaurant.
We look at (and judge) physical appearance first. Not because we’re shallow, small minded, ignorant or awful. But because that’s the first piece of information we absorb.
That’s Why People Judge You By Your Appearance
People complain about this. I understand why. It seems unfair. But think about this….
The only way to stop judging people by their physical appearance:
- Is to blindfold yourself.
- Be born blind.
- Walk around with your eyes closed.
That’s how it’s always been, and always will be. If you can’t handle that, then you need to confront your demons and beat them into submission.
Otherwise it’ll stand in the way of your self esteem. And poor self esteem will stand in the way of other things that are important to you.