The expectations you should live up to are the ones you expect of yourself. – Unknown
Expectations kill. And when they kill, it’s a murder 1000 times worse than a quick and painless death.
How do I know that? Because all it takes is for me to walk through the city and I’ll see countless people with blank expressions on their faces. Living up to society’s expectations has killed their spirits from the inside out.
They have no passion, excitement, energy, interest, drive, motivation, or happiness. And they couldn’t pretend to have it even if they were professional actors and actresses.
Fuck the expectations society expects you to live up to. It’s not worth killing yourself from the inside out.
Avoid these 8 stupid expectations to reclaim your happiness.
1. You have to get married by “this” or “that” age
I know people who think this way. Someone once asked me silly questions like – are you married yet? As If to say I should have been married by now because I’m in my 20’s.
For some people it’s even worse than that. Especially when it’s a part of your religion or strong traditions the older generations have stuck to.
If you don’t want to get married, or at least you don’t want to yet, then don’t. Why let someone tell you how the F to live your life? You’re the one living it, so live it right and do what’s right for you.
2. You have to buy a house by “this” or “that” age
This is another stupid expectation society tends to vomit on you. As If there’s a law or a rule book stating what age you should have or buy a house by.
Live up to your own expectations and do what pleases or makes sense to you. A house can’t fulfill you. But the decisions you make and the way you choose to live your life can.
3. You have to have kids by “this” or “that” age
I’ve also been asked – do you have kids yet? As If it’s a crime not to. Or because many other 20 something year old’s have kids and I don’t.
You might not even want to have kids, and that’s fine. Or you might not be ready yet because it’s not what you’re focused on. If that’s the case, follow your own path and ignore the ridiculous expectations society has set up for you.
4. You have to have sex by “this” or “that” age
When you’re in high school other kids will tease you about this topic. When you’re in college some people would die of shock if you told them you’re a virgin. Especially if you’re in your 20’s.
But if you don’t want to have sex with anybody and everybody, then suit yourself. There’s nothing wrong with that. Have sex whenever you want to, and with whomever you choose to. Don’t let society’s expectations have any control of what YOU want and what matters to you.
5. You need to have a drivers license and a car by “this” or “that” age
I’ve never owned a car, never been interested in owning a car, and will never own a car in my life. It’s not worth it, it’s not convenient for my needs, and it doesn’t make any logical sense to me. Does that make me a bad person?
If you don’t want a car, or you haven’t got a car yet and you’re over 20 years old, get over it. It’s no big deal, so don’t make it out to be.
6. You have to believe in religion or god, otherwise you’ll go to hell
I was never interested in going to church. I have nothing against it, but it never worked for me. I don’t see the value in it. And I’m not a religious person. Does that mean I’m a devil and I worship Satan?
I’ll tell you what’s evil. Pressuring and manipulating people into being religious against their own will. If you don’t believe in it, that’s fine. And vice versa.
7. You have to look like a supermodel
All you’ve got to do is look at the mainstream media. Or look at page 3 models in newspapers. Take a look at the way they portray celebrities in the limelight.
Take a look at girls who are trying to be something they’re not, because they perceive an airbrushed picture to be legitimate.
Take a look at the way they portray “good looking” guys in advertisements and so on.
All these expectations are dangerous, and does NOT represent men and women in general. Stop trying to be perfect and start trying to be YOU. There is no perfect.
8. Guys have to approach girls first
A lot of “what if” relationships could have been possible if it weren’t for this nonsense expectation. A relationship, dating, a conversation is a two way street. It’s not one sided.
It takes two to tango as the saying goes. So guys, stop pressuring yourself into living up to this expectation. It’s doing you no good.
And girls, stop encouraging it and have the guts to approach the guys you’re interested in, instead of playing cat and mouse. :)
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