Myths, when believed, are even more dangerous than beliefs that are genuine but useless. Like this myth below that society has become accustomed to.
You have to be born lucky to be talented.
Believing a myth like this will guarantee an unhappy life for anybody who believes in it. We all have talent regardless of being born lucky or NOT being born lucky.
But that’s not the point of this post. So let’s get back to it.
3 Misleading Personal Development Myths:
Myth #1 – Passion is something you have to find
Passion is something you develop, not something you follow.
The words – “follow your passion” has over 619 million results on Google, and over 13 million results on Bing.
Out of 90% of those results, you’ll come across bullshit headlines like:
- Top 5 reasons to follow your passion (and excitement).
- How to follow your passion and do what you love.
- Follow your passion, find your power.
- Quotes to help you follow your passion.
And countless other articles. The problem with articles and posts like these is….
There’s no such thing as “following” your passion, and it’s harmful advice.
Passion isn’t something you can search on Google Maps and pin point, expecting the path to be laid out to you.
No. Passion is developed through practice, testing, experimenting, learning, taking action, and improvement.
Passion is built through DOING.
If you don’t DO, then there will be NO passion. It’s as simple as that.
I became passionate about blogging… by blogging a LOT. And by learning, understanding, working and getting better at it.
So If you’ve yet to “develop” your passion for anything, don’t worry about it. There’s still time to develop it because you don’t have to be born with it.
All you’ve got to do is:
- Write out a list of topics you’re interested in.
- Write out a list of activities you like.
- Then learn as much as you can.
- Study as much as you can.
- Practice the skill consistently.
- Take lots of action.
- Test and experiment.
- Be curious.
The quicker you take action, the sooner you’ll know whether you’re passionate about the thing you’re doing.
And if you’re not passionate about it, then move onto the next thing until it happens.
Myth #2 – All it takes is “5 simple steps” to change your life
Anything that sounds too good to be true, probably is.
That’s why schemes like “get rich quick” or “lose weight quick” is so captivating, enticing, and attractive to the general public.
Bullshit guru’s and bloggers who create these articles know it, too.
I’ve bought tons and tons of books. Enough to break your back in terms of sheer size and weight, metaphorically.
So many of them did nothing for me. The same story is true for 1000’s of articles I’ve read online.
My life never changed. And for good reason.
Every time I’ve “changed my life” it’s usually because:
- I’ve had an epiphany.
- A major setback.
- I “put in the work”.
- I was intentional about it.
- Or my perspective changed.
The truth is, it probably takes 100000+ steps to change your life in a genuine, massive, unbelievable kind of way.
So don’t beat yourself up and be disgusted with yourself when promised results don’t work out for you.
Myth #3 – Your life purpose is attached to 1 THING, and 1 thing only
Who said your purpose in life has to be 1 thing?
Type into Google – “how to find your life purpose” and over 10 billion results pop up.
The problem with believing this is: you’ll kill yourself from the inside out, trying to find that “one thing” in life you’re meant to be doing.
You’ll end up looking as stressed as a used car tire, worn out as a torn pair of trainers, and as frustrated as a cigarette smoker who hasn’t smoked for 24 hours.
Ever since I was a teenager, I’ve always wanted to work for myself and run my own businesses.
Never have I been interested in the traditional route of 9-5, or being told what to do, where to do it, and when I can do it.
Along the way, I discovered a lot about myself, like the things I want out of life. And let’s put it this way: what I want (purpose) isn’t just ONE thing. It’s many things.
Out of my “list” of things:
- I want to make a difference.
- Spend my time creating and building things.
- And expressing myself through creative expression.
So Instead of seeing your purpose as that ONE thing in life you’re meant to be doing, see it as the many things in life you could CHOOSE to do.
You’re the driver of your life, after all. And you get to choose what it is you want out of your life before you die.
So steer your life in whatever direction you like, and drive to as many destinations as you want, to fulfill your desires.
“The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.” – Fyodor Dostoyevsky