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What Influences Self Esteem? Here Are 7 Legitimate Answers

What Influences Self Esteem? Here Are 7 Legitimate Answers

I was bullied and I never told anybody about it. Yep. I kept it to myself as if it was a best kept secret. It was as if I had to deal with it alone because that’s just the kind of kid I was. Those experiences with being bullied influenced my self esteem more than I ever knew. Mostly in ways...

How To Be Ferociously Confident, Even If You Look Horrible

How To Be Ferociously Confident, Even If You Look Horrible

I can't just imagine the look of horror on the face of the doctor that delivered him. The trauma of seeing a baby come out with deformed limbs; hands with no palms and just two fingers. And horrifically disfigured legs with 3 toes. Roger Crawford was born on October 8th, 1960 with a rare genetic defect called Ectrodactylism. Which is the congenital...

5 TED Talks About Finding Work You Love

5 TED Talks About Finding Work You Love

Finding your way through the world can be tough. There are so many choices staring you in the face that it’s easy to become paralyzed with uncertainty. Afraid you’ll make the wrong decision or worried the career you chose isn’t the right one. It can be a daunting thing to indulge in work you don’t like. There may be a ray of sunshine...

Why You Should Always Be Yourself, Even If It Pisses People Off

Why You Should Always Be Yourself, Even If It Pisses People Off

Back when I started Just Be Real, I wrote this post: Jobcentre Plus Is Useless It's now a top post on this blog. And I've had people tweet me on Twitter, who were pissed off by what I shared. They made that clear by voicing their disagreements. Then In 2015-2016, I wrote an answer to a question on Q&A Site - Quora. The question...

3 Reasons Why People Feel Joy When They See You Fail

3 Reasons Why People Feel Joy When They See You Fail

I'd raise my hand in school to answer a question, and everybody would laugh at my wrong answer. As If I was stupid or naive. When I worked in a biscuit company, one of the duties was cleaning and mopping the warehouse. Apparently my "mopping" skills were pathetic, as everyone pointed fingers and laughed as if I were a clown rapping...

5 Guaranteed Ways To Keep Believing In Yourself, Even If It Seems Impossible

Guaranteed Ways To Keep Believing In Yourself, Even If It Seems Impossible

"Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they've been given, than to explore the power they have to change it." - Muhammad Ali When you're trying to accomplish the unknown, it's hard. It's hard because you've never done it before. And you're in the dark without a flashlight...

What Creates Self Worth? Here Are 6 Answers That Will Feed Your Curiosity

What Creates Self Worth? Here Are 6 Answers That Will Feed Your Curiosity

"Never say anything about yourself you do not want to come true." - Brian Tracy Self worth is like gladiator armor. It protects you from any outside forces or dangers. And if any damage is inflicted on you, it doesn't last long. You can easily bounce back from it. You'll be able to deflect any damage thrown at you. But what If...

3 Unconventional Tips That Will Boost Your Self Confidence

3 Unconventional Tips That Will Boost Your Self Confidence

You know how it feels when you want to throw up, right? Your stomach feels weird. You feel disgusting. And the experience is nothing short of unpleasant. That's how I feel when I see the same tips and advice being repeated by everybody. And I'm sure the same is true for you as well. If I search - "how to be happy", the...

17 Examples That Prove Faking It Till You Make It Actually Works

17 Examples That Prove Faking It Till You Make It Actually Works

If you fake it till you make it, does that mean you're a faker? If so, then we're ALL fakers. Because we all do it without even realizing it. And no, faking it till you make is not a bad thing. We learn from other people after all, which proves we're "faking it" along the way as we don't know what the...

This Is Why People Judge You By Your Appearance, Instead Of Your Personality

This Is Why People Judge You By Your Appearance

The woman in the picture above is delicious eye candy for me. She's got a banging body. The whole package is just right for me. Is it wrong of me to judge the woman in the picture like that? Am I a bad person for judging her physical appearance? Maybe I am to you, or maybe not. I don't care either way,...

4 Surprising Things That Are Not Important In Life

4 Surprising Things That Are Not Important In Life

You're on your deathbed. You have 30 minutes to live. If this were true, how would you spend the last 30 minutes of your life? We can both agree you'd be thinking about everything that's precious to you. Including your memories, experiences, choices, and hopefully, NOT a pile of regrets. In life we put too much value on things that don't matter....

4 Types Of People You Should Absolutely Avoid

4 Types Of People You Should Absolutely Avoid

Some people would piss on your grave if they could. And stab you in the back with a 10 inch blade if they could get away with it. Yes, some of us are that negative.  You know the types of people I'm talking about. The ones who: Makes your life shitty. Drain you of positive energy. Cause you to be more...

4 Things You Want People To Care About (But They Actually Don’t)

4 Things You Want People To Care About (But They Actually Don't)

I needed a way to start this off. So I went over to the Manchester evening news site and noticed this headline: Money laundering conman who tricked bank into giving him £345,000 mortgage is jailed It's said he'll be going to jail for an entire 6 years of his life. How many people will be giving a fuck about him while he's behind bars?  You...

7 Genuine Reasons Why People Are Driven To Tell Lies

7 Genuine Reasons Why People Are Driven To Tell Lies

There are three types of lies. Lies, damn lies and statistics. - Unknown I have an embarrassing memory of something I did when I was maybe 7+ years old. I went to the supermarket after school had finished to get a Kit Kat. You know, as in the Kit-Kat chocolate bar. While I was there, I picked something else off the isle. A...

When You Gain The Confidence To Stand Up For Yourself

When You Gain The Confidence To Stand Up For Yourself

Bullying affects 1.5 million people in the UK. Or at least it did throughout 2016. I remember being in high school when I dealt with verbal bullying. Two guys decided to make me the "joke" of the day, and started to mock, disrespect, slander, and insult me for their own pleasure. But then the day came when I decided to not tolerate...

How To Practice Self Improvement During Your Drive to Work

How To Practice Self Improvement During Your Drive to Work

You’d be hard-pressed to find people who genuinely love commuting to work. Most just endure their journeys because they know there’s no other option. If you can relate, rest assured there’s no need for your commute to feel like complete drudgery. In fact, you can use that time to become a better person. Keep reading to learn how...   1. Mentally Sort Out the...

Get It All Done: How To Start Finishing The Things You Want To Do

Get It All Done How To Start Finishing The Things You Want To Do

We have all been on the same page paying for the gym, attended an online course, bought an e-book and then just failed to get it all done. Sound familiar? I had the best intentions, to become better and use the new skills to earn more and support my family even more. But I failed. While these failures occur in the long...

What Is The Goal Of A Bully? 7 Things You Should Know

What Is The Goal Of A Bully 7 Things You Should Know

"Hatred should never be used to fight hatred. Never!" - Siam, Canaan Anime When you feel like a piece of dog shit being scraped off the floor, you grow to despise yourself. You start to despise your life. Unhappiness starts to creep up on you... And that self hatred eventually drives you to bully others who are "happier" than you are. Or...