There’s something special about happy people that you can’t help but notice. For example:
- A genuine, bright smile.
- The way they treat other people.
- The way they treat themselves.
- How they react to people or situations.
- The types of actions they take.
- The attitudes they have.
And so on. After all, happiness is something we’re all aiming for in some way, shape or form. So it’s bound to attract us.
7 Things You’ll Never See A Happy Person Do
Acknowledge these and you’re bound to realize what happiness is all about and why you may be lacking it.
And then what to do about it.
1. Gossip about other people
“Watch out for the joy-stealers: gossip, criticism, complaining, faultfinding, and a negative, judgmental attitude.” – Joyce Meyer
No matter what the circumstances are you’ll never catch a happy person gossiping about others. There’s no reason to.
Just think about it logically. Why would someone who’s happy with themselves and their lives speak negatively about others?
The only types of people who have time and energy to gossip about others are:
- Unhappy people.
- Jealous people.
- Envious people.
When someone else gossips about you, spreads rumors or bad mouths you, they’re doing it to feel better about themselves.
Whether they feel better temporarily or not, it’s the cold hard truth.
Think about all the people who have gossiped about you in school, college, work or in public.
Did they ever seem happy to you? Did they seem like positive people with positive outlooks?
Did they ever seem like the types of people you’d LOVE to associate with?
I don’t fucking think so. Unless you enjoy being around miserable bastards who enjoy bringing misery to other people…
Which would make you a masochist.
By hurting others you’re indirectly hurting yourself.
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2. Avoid their problems
“You get hit the hardest when trying to run or hide from a problem. Like the defense on a football field, putting all focus on evading only one defender is asking to be blindsided.” ― Criss Jami
Running away from your problems is what causes unhappiness in the first place.
When you’re genuinely happy within yourself, you know confronting the problem is what makes the difference.
The majority of society operates this way.
They run away from their problems believing it’ll make them happier, but Ironically the opposite happens. Only to worsen overtime.
- You can’t drink away your problems.
- You can’t smoke away your problems.
- You can’t run away from your problems (they’re too fast).
- And you can’t avoid them forever.
Face, confront, acknowledge and tackle your problems HEAD ON. No matter HOW big the problem is.
Do this often enough and consistent enough, and it’ll become a habit.
Then there will be a LOT more room to create happiness within your life.
3. Blame everybody but themselves
“There’s plenty of blame to go around.” ― Suzanne Collins
Notice how there’s ALWAYS someone to blame when problems occur? Yeah, everybody but your damn self, right?
If there’s one thing I know about blame then it’s this…
When you put all your attention on blame, you become a victim to the things you’re blaming.
Unhappiness is guaranteed when all your attention is focused on blame.
The only way to be truly happy is to do what you fear… And that’s to:
- Blame yourself.
- Take responsibility.
- Grow some balls.
- And stop being a little bitch about it.
As bizarre as it sounds, happiness is a result of taking responsibility for your actions. So do more of that. :)
4. Allow negative people or things to ruin their day
Even when bad things happen you have to try to use those bad things in a positive manner and really just take the positive out of it. – Natalie du Toit
You don’t need a pair of black Binoculars to spot negativity on any given day.
You can spot negativity without even trying.
Just take a look at the BBC news, ITV News, Manchester Evening News or world news.
You’re bound to see unspeakably negative things and crimes that have happened across the world.
Happy people don’t indulge themselves in the news, media or surround themselves with poisonous snakes.
Because they know being bitten will sap the positive energy right out of them!
Guard your happiness by avoiding negativity at all costs. The price of succumbing to it is too high.
5. Leave hateful comments or emails online
“I have decided to stick to love…Hate is too great a burden to bear.” ― Martin Luther King Jr.
What does it take for someone to stop what they’re doing, prey on someone to strike down, then go about doing it in a hateful manner?
An unhappy person to say the least. A person who’s fed up with their lives and has made it their mission to ruin yours.
The only way to be truly happy is to confront the issue as I said earlier, then solve it.
Happiness is impossible If you bottle up your problems, avoid them and spit them out at people who are happier than you are.
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6. Spread false rumors about others
“Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.” ― Henry Thomas Buckle
Guess who usually starts rumors about others? An unhappy, miserable, jealous, envious prick. That’s who!
If your life is perfect and there are no issues you’re facing, there’s no need to spread rumors about others.
There’s no motivation to ruin other people’s lives, bring them down or make them feel like shit.
The motivation to do such comes from hate, negativity, jealousy and envy.
You can’t be happy and a spiteful coward at the same time. It’s one or the other.
7. Be unethical to get what they want
If you don’t have integrity, you have nothing. You can’t buy it. You can have all the money in the world, but if you are not a moral and ethical person, you really have nothing. – Henry Kravis
If a lot of criminals believed there was an easier way to make it in life, they’d do it in a heartbeat.
Because the average criminal doesn’t enjoy harming others to get what they want.
It’s the same with anything else in life. If you get what you want by being unethical, you’ll hate yourself for it.
Not only that, but you’ll never be happy with yourself.
Happiness and being unethical don’t mix. The two could never meet. They’re both from completely different planets.
The route to happiness is to be ethical, true to yourself and to stick to your morals.
When your ethical you wont have a guilty conscience or that disgusting feeling lingering in your stomach.
Happiness = being true to yourself, there’s no avoiding that fact.
Which trait have you caught yourself doing? And what action are you going to take today to make the changes?