Learn to say ‘no’ to the good so you can say ‘yes’ to the best. – John C. Maxwell
Oh, you thought there were no downfalls to saying yes too often? If only that were true!
Saying yes is no different to getting laid in a night club… It’s too easy to do it.
Saying yes is no different to being like everybody else…. It’s too easy to do it.
Saying yes is no different to settling for a relationship below your standards… It’s too easy to do it.
And things that are too easy to do have little to no benefit. Always.
The easier it is the less rewarding it’ll be.
5 downfalls of saying yes too often
1. You end up prostituting your time (for free)
I must govern the clock, not be governed by it. – Golda Meir
Giving out your time by saying yes too often is like giving out sex to anybody and everybody…
- You end up prostituting yourself.
- Your value goes down.
- Nobody will take you seriously.
- You become a convenience (not in a good way).
- Some people will take advantage of you.
What’s worse is saying yes too often to the wrong things and the wrong people. That’s what happens when you end up saying YES more than you need to.
Whether it be your family, friends, associates, colleagues, partner, siblings, it’s all the same.
Stop prostituting your time and start treating it with respect. Not everything is worth saying yes to.
2. You’ll have less time for yourself
Time and tide wait for no man. – Geoffrey Chaucer
Each time you say yes to somebody’s request, favor or opportunity, you give a portion of your time away.
That’s why it’s important to choose which opportunities, emails and phone calls are worth your time.
A lot of it isn’t going to be worth your time in the slightest. It’s the minority that’ll b worth your time, effort and energy.
The best way to decide to say yes is to ask questions like:
- Is this going to benefit the both of us?
- Is this going to push me towards my goals?
- Is this going to change my life?
- Is this adding value or subtracting?
- Can I offer any real value here?
Then you can make a logical decision to see If saying “yes” makes sense or not.
There are only 24 hours in a day, don’t dump it all into somebody else’s hands.
3. It becomes a bad habit
It is easier to prevent bad habits than to break them. – Benjamin Franklin
There’s a reason why people stay in heart shattering relationships, even when It’s unhealthy to do so.
There’s a reason people are taken advantage of and used by others with bad intentions.
And there’s a reason many of us cause our own problems through bad decisions we make.
It’s called bad habits. And when you make a habit out of saying yes, it’s usually to your own detriment.
Imagine If every high street retailer said yes to customers wanting a product for cheaper than it is.
They’d be out of….. business, right? Saying yes too often can put your happiness out of business, as well as your time.
Practice saying no and do it with often to break the habit.
4. You won’t know when to say “no”
Sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can change your life forever. – Keri Russell
Being a “yes” man or a “yes” woman puts you in one dangerous predicament. You won’t know when to say “no”.
When you don’t know when to say no, you won’t know what decisions are right or wrong.
You won’t know because you’ll trick yourself into thinking:
- It’s a bad thing to say no.
- It’s rude to turn people down.
- It hurts to be rejected, so I won’t reject anybody else.
- It’s better to tell a white lie than to be straightforward.
That’s why you have to find the right balance so you’ll be aware of what to accept or turn down.
And the only way to have that awareness is by not saying “yes” excessively.
Related Post: 5 Benefits Of Saying NO More Often
5. Your priorities are put on hold
Action expresses priorities. ― Mahatma Gandhi
When your priorities are put on hold, your life is put on hold. Think about that for a second.
If you’re saying “yes” to things that don’t align with your priorities…
- You’re holding yourself back.
- You’re getting in your own way.
- You’re slowing down your progress.
- Your goals and plans are on standby.
And worst of all, you’re saying no to YOU and you’re saying you’re less of a priority.
Don’t get in your own way. Show yourself some respect. Align your decisions with what’s Important.
So to break this post down:
- Put your priorities FIRST.
- Align your decisions with your goals, ethics and morals.
- Ask questions.
- Learn when to say NO and practice saying it.
- Find the right balance.