Tone is the hardest part of saying no. ― Jonathan Price
To think two words can cut a persons soul as deeply as a 10 inch blade could. Words have that kind of power though, right?
“No” is one of those words that we have to say but find it too soul crushing to tell somebody. Even If it’s for our own benefit.
When someone close to you asks you a favor, you almost always want to say yes. Only to feel guilty after spitting out the big, bad, two letter word, known as “no”.
No matter who you reject with the words “no”, it’ll still be associated with negativity. But there are big benefits to doing so.
Positive benefits that will change your habits, mood, how much you get done and how much others respect you for it.
Lets get into each of the 5 benefits below.
5 Benefits Of Saying NO More Often.
1. You’ll have more time for yourself
Time flies like an arrow; fruit flies like a banana. ― Anthony G. Oettinger
You see, the thing with human beings is we demand so much of other people’s time. And this is on a daily basis.
The fact that you’re reading this article proves I’m demanding some of your time as well. (I appreciate you)
We demand people’s time to help us out, collaborate, hang out, do business, go shopping, etc.
This is why you MUST learn to say NO more often. That doesn’t mean be a dick about it.
But it does mean you have to guard your time and choose what you say “yes” to more wisely.
How do you do that? By asking these questions:
- Is this request an opportunity?
- Is this a waste of my time?
- Will this add to my life or takeaway from it?
- Can I be of help in anyway?
- If I say yes, can I get it done?
- If I say yes, will I be of value?
- If I say yes, will this benefit us both?
- If I say yes, am I being authentic?
Answer these questions honestly and don’t bullshit yourself.
If you can do that you’ll be a happy chappy while still having more time on your hands. And that ain’t a bad thing.
2. It makes you authentic
Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen. ― Brené Brown
Assuming you have a good reason to say no, and aren’t saying it for the sake of it, that displays authenticity.
It makes you authentic because:
- You’re being honest with yourself.
- You’re being honest with the other person.
- You’re staying true to your identity.
- You’re staying true to your priorities.
- You’re saying no for a genuine reason.
The reason the words NO are perceived in such a negative light, is because it’s usually never followed by an explanation.
- When parents say NO to their kids, yet have no good reason.
- When teachers say NO to their students, yet have no good reason.
That’s called being a prick without realizing it. Don’t make excuses, explain why. Even If it is just a few words.
3. You’ll be more than twice as productive
I feel like everything I do is successful and productive. It’s gonna be hard to tell me I’m slipping. – Lil Wayne
When you become a victim to saying YES to more requests than you should, your productivity suffers.
But when you flip the switch you end up being more than twice as productive and getting much more done.
There is only so much time in a day for you and the people who are in need of a favor. And that time involves:
- Alone time.
And so much more. And when you make productivity a part of the equation, you realize just how precious your time really is.
Don’t ruin it by trying to be “nice” by saying yes, because the aftermath will be far from “nice” on your end of the bargain.
4. You end up making smarter decisions
When you’re committed to NOT saying yes to anything and everything, you think before you act.
You make a conscious decision and weigh it up before you blurt out your answer.
Doing that consistently will force you to make smarter, better, wiser decisions.
You’ll weigh up the value of each request based on what’s true to you and what makes sense.
And you won’t say yes to anything that violates your authenticity, morals and ethics.
5. You’re self discipline will thank you
With self-discipline most anything is possible. – Theodore Roosevelt
Saying no takes a lot of self discipline and self control. It takes a lot of practice as well, because many of us dislike doing it.
But when you do it with good reason and good intentions often, it becomes a discipline.
And that discipline is what will drive you to make smarter decisions and better guard your time.
Saying NO to:
- Distracting phone calls.
- What’s app messages.
- Facebook distractions.
- Requests by email.
And all other forms of distractions is a discipline you’ll be thanking yourself for.
It helps you cut out a LOT of unnecessary noise through out the day.
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